When we think of sex toys, our minds usually turn first to women’s sex toys – dildos and other vibrators. We do not tend to think of men’s toys, though many wonderful ones exist. A favorite of many men is the masturbator – a sex toy designed to provide additional stimulation (and sometimes mess-management) during masturbation. While many varieties are available in adult stores, the best is the Fleshlight masturbator.
What is a Fleshlight?
The Fleshlight is a masturbator that features a flesh-like, textured sleeve encased in a plastic tube. It gets its name because the original resembled a simple flashlight. Now multiple varieties exist, including Fleshlights whose containers resemble cans (sometimes referred to as “Sex in a Can”).
The external area of a Fleshlight is almost as important as what is inside. Three variations exist: mouth, vagina, and anus. The inside of the Fleshlight is a canal that features different texture, depending on the specific design. Some are ribbed. Others feature flexible “teeth,” while some are designed after famous porn actresses (or actors in some cases).
A few Fleshlights also come with vibrators inserted along the case. These add additional stimulation. Some men find that it takes a little getting used to, but it is well worth it for the pleasure the vibrating Fleshlight delivers.
The best use of the Fleshlight will always be masturbation. Whether you are reading a magazine, watching a video, enjoying an intimate chat (with a girlfriend or a professional), or simply having quiet time in your room, the Fleshlight will deliver intense pleasure and will keep the mess contained within for easy cleanup afterwards. Those that are patterned after models are perfect for adding physical sensation to your fantasy, especially if you have a video of the model handy.
The Fleshlight does not have to be just an alone-time thing. Intimacy is important in a relationship, but sex is not always possible, even if your partner is in the mood. Instead foregoing intimate time altogether, brings out the Fleshlight and let your partner control it. As you lie back, share fantasies together.
If you have a model-inspired Fleshlight, you and your partner can enjoy a fantasy together without complications. Threesomes are an erotic idea, but they can be difficult to put into action. With a Fleshlight and a blindfold, however, your partner can walk you through a sexual fantasy with another woman while she uses the Fleshlight on you. After you finish, the two of you can continue with more foreplay and intercourse, perhaps talking through the fantasy further.
It is very important to care for your Fleshlight. While the material seems delicate, if treated well, it can last a long time.
- Use only sex-toy safe, anti-microbial cleaners to clean the Fleshlight. The material is very stretchy, so you can carefully turn it inside out in order to thoroughly clean the shaft.
- Use only a sex-toy safe or water-based lubricant with your Fleshlight. Other lubricants can cause the flesh-like material to break down, making your Fleshlight unusable.
- Thoroughly dry the Fleshlight with a lint-free cloth and store it in a cool, dry location. When you store it, you can use cornstarch to help keep the Fleshlight from sticking together. Never store it with talcum or baby powder, as both of these will ruin the material. Simply rinse off the Fleshlight before use if storing it with cornstarch.
- Do not put your Fleshlight in the freezer or attempt to heat it in a microwave. You can adjust the temperature of your Fleshlight gently. If you want to enjoy a cool sensation (or if your partner wants to use that on you) let the Fleshlight soak in cold water or ice water for a few minutes. If you want to warm the Fleshlight, especially after cleaning, you can soak it for a few minutes in a bowl of warm water as well.